I came across the following post, which is generally true, but there’s an important point that needs to be corrected. I’ll share the post in paraphrased form and then post the correction after it Insha’Allah.
The post reads:
“As singles, you must understand that there are three phases you will go through in marriage:
The Correction relates to the honeymoon stage:
Sheikh ibn Baaz Rahimahullah was asked about a husband and wife who agree not to have children and whether this is allowed?
The Shaikh rahimahullaah responded: As long as the woman is able to bear children, this agreement is not permissible; because the Shari’ah requires that people give concern to bearing children and increasing the Ummah. The Prophet ﷺ said: “Marry the child-bearing, loving woman, for I shall outnumber the peoples by way of you on the Day of Resurrection.” In another wording (the Prophet ﷺ said): “outnumber (i.e. the followers of the other) Prophets on the Day of Judgement.” That is because by way of this (i.e. having many children) those who worship Allah among the Muslims will be numerous, the Ummah will be numerous and strong in opposing their enemies.
It is NOT PERMISSIBLE for a man to abandon having children out of fear of either tiredness in seeking a livelihood or due to difficulty, or due to expenditure, or due to a desire to enjoy one’s wife and other than that. It is also not permissible for a woman to do this, rather it is obligated on both of them to pursue the means of having offspring -be eager to seek the means to having children so that the Ummah becomes numerous and to fulfil what the Prophet ﷺ stated.
However, if the woman either suffers a lot of pain due to an illness of the womb or she cannot give birth except by way of surgical operation, then this is an excuse not to have children. If the surgical operation (or caesarean) will harm her –it is feared that something will happen to her- and also if the children are many- being born at close intervals and bringing them up becomes difficult upon her, then there is no hindrance in either taking some pills (or contraception) or some preventative measures for a year or two – the period of breastfeeding- so that she becomes strong enough to nurture the children and able to nurture the other newly born.”
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