What True Love in Marriage Looks Like: Lessons from the Quran and Sunnah
Marriage is not about having a handsome husband or having a beautiful wife. It is not about looking for a perfect spouse because there is no one absolutely perfect in this world.
It is not about looking for a well off or rich person. Money cannot buy love.
If money and good looks would be everything, then billionaires or most handsome/beautiful person would not have been divorced or remained unmarried!
A successful marriage is finding someone who respects you, who cares about you, who understands win rayou, who is proud of having you, who loves the way you are, who is faithful to you and who knows how to comfort you during the time of distress and the one who supports in ups and downs of this life and who’s source of peace for you!
True love (in marriage) is one of the greatest blessings from Allāh. Words cannot describe what true love…it can only be felt with the heart when two souls who literally wanna be with each other in this life and hereafter, unites by best relation of marriage.
True love is serene, affectionate and merciful yet cannot be described.
It deepens over time, maturing into a beautiful blossom when the initial rush of the honeymoon fades. It settles into a cozy routine of daily life, day in and day out, predictable and dependable. It grounds us. It makes us mature. It allows us to be fully ourselves.
When we get rid ourselves of lustful desires and running behind bodies and beauty, then only we will feel the power of true Love and the closeness of two souls because of true Love.
The best example is the love bond between Prophet ﷺ and Khadijah رضي الله عنها…How they comforted each other during time of distress, supported each other, believed each other and most importantly loved each other unconditionally.
Subhan’Allāh
This is as the Prophet guided the lovers to al-nikaah (marriage), as in Sunan Ibn Mājah, it is reported: “Nothing is like al-nikaah for two lovers.”
Thus, marrying the beloved is the cure for love, which Allāh has made a lawful remedy.
Ibn al Qayyim in his book al-Jawāb al-Kāfī 1/237
May Allāh عز و جل bless us with pious and loving spouse who are the comfort of our eyes and peace for our heart. Aameen!