The Unintended Consequences of Relying on Housemaids: Protect Your Marriage and Family
THE BEST WIFE MATERIAL; A WARNING TO THE MARRIED WOMEN
Many couples today do not contemplate before employing housemaid on the kind of job she or he should be doing and I’m not saying it’s wrong. My point is about the kind of house chores given to them to do.
Some women because of their job schedules, everything at home is taken care of by the housemaid.
If you are to take in a housemaid, ensure he or she doesn’t live with you under the same roof. You may think I’m not realistic but we will find out! Let your housemaid be the type that comes and does her job then go back!
In certain homes, the housemaid does the following;
She cooks for the entire house including the husband - At times she serves the husband
- She mobs the floor, wash dishes
- She caters for the children, bathe them, even take them to school
- She washes the clothes at home, including the husband’s and the children’s
- She ensures everyone at home is satisfied with her services. And many more
She cooks for the entire house including the husband These are the qualities of a good housewife in her home and that’s what we are failing to acknowledge!
How many wives on social media are crying and complaining that their husbands are having sexual relations with the housemaids? How many housewives have been sent away from their material homes whilst the maids become the new wife of the house?
As a married woman, no one! I repeat, no one should ever cook your husband’s food except on occasional cases where you’re not around or sick or something of such. The secret to keeping your husband is giving him good food (cooked food and bed’s food that’s sex). Create time for your family and stop trying to value your job more than your family; when you die, your company will replace you maybe even before you’re buried but your family can’t replace you. Getting married to a man is to take care of him and not for you to transfer it to another one. If your husband starts enjoying the food prepared by the housemaid, then your marriage is in danger; I’m not saying your husband isn’t a good man but the devil is never at sleep.
The wives at times keep commanding the housemaids on what and how to do it whilst their children are watching movies or playing games or what have you.
Dear wives, do you know what you’re doing by allowing the housemaids do everything?
You’re teaching them to become a better cook, a better caretaker of a house, a good housewives for that matter but what about your children?
You’re indirectly teaching your children to be lazy, dependent, irresponsible and worst of it, to become dictators in that they deserved to be served and not to serve! You’re busy training someone’s daughter whilst spoiling your children.
You may call it child abuse or inhumane treatment of children but you need to teach your children to be hardworking, good cooks, responsible and upright!
Halal Muslim Couple: Many young ladies today can’t spend a day in a marital home because they can’t cook, they’re very lazy, they can’t do anything just because of the way they were brought up. I’ve seen a situation where a lady packed back to her parents fours days after marriage saying she can’t cope with the works at home which was just for her keeping the house neat, cooking for the husband and washing his clothes but she said she wasn’t born for that and she’s too beautiful for that.
Some women are busy training other’s children in the name of nannies and housemaids while spoiling their own children in the name of “I’m trying to give my children a better life”. Give them a better life by teaching them to be hardworking and independent.
As a married woman, avoid taking your mature sisters to come live with you, it’s better you take your brothers. As a married man, avoid taking your brothers to come live with you; it’s better you take your sisters! There’s a big why to this and we have witnessed cases where husband sleeps with the wife’s sister and wife sleeping with the husband’s brother….