Why Support for Widows and Divorced Women Matters: A Call for Compassion and Fairness
Where Should Widows and Divorced Women Go?
In our society, often women who have been divorced or whose husbands have passed away are considered flawed. Being divorced or a widow is not a flaw; these are simply decisions of fate.
It is commonly observed that people are reluctant to marry such women, even though many of these women are between the ages of 28 and 40. It is unfair to refuse to marry them. Just because their husband divorced them doesn’t mean they no longer have the right to remarry.
Such unfortunate women end up spending the rest of their lives at home. Everyone desires to marry a virgin who is beautiful, wealthy, and educated. Meanwhile, the daughters of poorer families remain at home and grow old, with no one considering their plight. Everyone is busy amassing wealth, becoming like Qarun in their pursuit of money.
What would have happened if some of that money had been given to a poor father, burdened with debts, who could then marry off his daughter while he was still young?
My earnest and heartfelt appeal to all Muslim men is to marry virgins, but also to consider marrying widows and divorced women so that you can support them for the rest of their lives.
I have seen many women who are divorced between the ages of 27 and 30, with much of their lives still ahead of them. Please consider bringing them into your marriage.
Our beloved Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) had only one wife, Aisha, who was a virgin, while all his other wives were widows or divorced. This was also meant to teach the ummah a lesson. Please understand and internalize this plea.
If you are already married and fulfilling your marital duties but desire a second marriage, please consider choosing a widow or divorced woman.
The fundamental thing is if you can maintain love and equality among your wives after two marriages and avoid injustice, then do it. Become a support for the distressed and helpless women in society.
Married women who cannot grant their husbands permission for a second marriage might disagree with this post. To them, I would say, if your husband can maintain equality and justice, do not create discord. Just as you are someone’s daughter, feel the pain of those daughters who are widows and divorced and growing old at home. A woman can empathize with another woman’s pain.
To husbands, if you must be unjust, then don’t marry at all. Why make someone’s daughter’s life a living hell?
Let’s all come together today to support widows and divorced women. Marry them while upholding justice. There are millions of such women waiting in our society.
Go and become the support for these oppressed women. Why do we keep ourselves happy while ignoring the pain of others?
Think about what will happen to these women; they will just grow old at home.
You can make a difference. Hold their hands, honor them, bring them into your marriage, and help control the increasing immorality in society.
Men are quick to engage in illicit relationships but hesitant to marry these women. Is it because of lust and passing time? Why not honor them by marrying them? Is there shame in doing so? Why is there no shame in engaging in illicit relationships?
Sadly, even married men and women are engaged in illicit relationships. Why not marry these women instead?
We seem to be directionless as mere nominal Muslims. Change your mindset. Islam is not narrow-minded. If you can be just, go and become a support for such women!