Building a Successful Marriage: Lessons from the Quran and Sunnah

Nurturing a Strong and Loving Relationship with Your Spouse

All men want to marry a woman that walks the path of Khadijah رضي الله عنها, but as a man you need to fulfil your rights in order to see that the marriage is successful. You need to spend quality time at home. You need to: be her best friend, love her, cherish her, honour her, magnify her, remember her, think about her, respect her, praise her, pray with her, joke with her, raise her and overlook her mistakes. You need to show her that she is an important person to you; more than all the chilling with mates and the late night missions.

All women want to marry a man that walks the path of Prophet Muhammad ﷺ, but as a woman you must exert efforts in order for your marriage to blossom. You need to: increase his confidence, lift his burdens, keep his secrets, trust him, console in him and show him that you care. You need to smile, joke and laugh. Be his source of peace, happiness and tranquillity. Emotionally strengthen him and spiritually assist him. You need to show him that you love him and that he is important to you; more than wealth. You need to help him reach his potential in being a servant of Allāh.

May we have a marriage that is upon the Qur’an and Sunnah of the Prophet ﷺ. Āmeen.

And remember that despite the fact that you can love your spouse, ensure that your complete love is only for Allāh سبحانه و تعالى. Only He is Trustworthy and only He does not break his promises. As for human beings, then we are fallible and so we will fall short and we won’t always be able to meet people’s expectations. 

So when you love, love for the sake of Allāh alone. 

Hazrat Abu Huraira رضي الله عنه‎ reported: The Messenger of Allāh, peace and blessings be upon him, said:

‎إِنَّ اللَّهَ يَقُولُ يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ أَيْنَ الْمُتَحَابُّونَ بِجَلَالِي الْيَوْمَ أُظِلُّهُمْ فِي ظِلِّي يَوْمَ لَا ظِلَّ إِلَّا ظِلِّي

Verily, Allāh will say on the Day of Resurrection: Where are those who love each other for the sake of my glory? Today, I will shelter them in my shade on a day when there is no shade but mine.

(S‌ah‌i‌h‌ Muslim 2566)