Love can sometimes buy you extra time but in the end, if you are unable to create finance, overall value leaks.
As many have found out, having a man who has money does not always mean getting the money. Women want to be listened to (even when they make it hard to be listened to). So, naturally, a man who is able to pay attention and care for them will build more value than one who is not able to do so.
Rest of mind and security of status helps build value. If everyday comes with uncertainty either through words spoken or actions taken then eventually, value will suffer. If this continues, it will get to the point that this value leak would tear things up.
That is the point where the threatened or insecure woman decides to leave to a place she can have peace and relax.
If you cannot or will not stand up for her, you will loss value. This is a struggle but unfortunately, many don’t know that this counts even with family. Striking the balance can be tricky and if you get it wrong, leaving her to feel like you allowed her to suffer at the hands of others without protecting her, your value leaks.
Let us face it, we all love to associate with good things/people. Part of developing value comes with the public and private perception of you. If you are always dirty for example (and she is clean enough to know it) your value drops.
For some, it goes to the tiny details of how well you are able to speak and flow. For others, it is more about deeper things like the quality of ideas you give out but in the end, we all want spouses that ‘represent’ and that adds value.
Help out at home, cook, change diapers, wash dishes, etc. It won’t make you a weak man and it won’t make you a slave. There is a deeper bond created with a man who is able to contribute in this way but even more importantly, it lets you be a better leader in the sense that you are able to practise what you preach. i.e. A person who washes his own dishes immediately is in a more earned position to ask others to do so immediately.
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