13 WAYS TO CORRECT YOUR HUSBAND WITHOUT HURTING HIS EGO

Effective Communication in Marriage: How to Correct Your Husband with Love and Respect

1: LOWER YOUR VOICE

Don’t shout at him. He is not your child. Although sometimes he acts like a child but yes you can correct him in a minimum volume tone. 

2: DO IT IN LOVE

Correction should be done in love. Remember your husband is a human too. He makes mistakes and so are you. 

3: NEVER EVER CRITICIZE YOUR HUSBAND BEFORE OTHERS 

Stop criticizing him, especially infront of your friends or family, that is very degrading to men, rather correct in love, just whisper with a gently hug. Most will say it’s constructive criticism. Men have egos too. their self-esteem are easy to breakdown. 

Correction is the act of offering better options.

Correction and criticism are never the same

Every decision should be talked and planned with the both of you. 

If he said your cooking is a little salty, NEVER WALKED OUT OF THE TABLE…instead appologize and offer other options. Give him sugar instead. and impove your cooking by watching cooking videos on youtube if you don’t know how to cook very well. 

4. PRAISE HIM FOR HIS ACCOMPLISHMENTS

 If you always appreciate his efforts and sacrifices, then when he makes mistakes, you can easily be able to correct him or talk to him about the mistake. But if you don’t always appreciate him, trying to correct him may cause more problems than you expected. Imagine him providing good meals for you, etc and you never tell him “thank you for…” but suddenly he hears you saying “You did so and so which is wrong…” How will he feel? 

5. DON’T DO IT IN FRONT OF YOUR CHILDREN

Some women are funny. They will be like “Pa boy” I want to talk to you and infronts of their children .

Avoid correcting your husband in the presence of your children. Incessant correction of your husband infront of your children will make them disrespect him. Remember is the head of your household.

6 DON’T CORRECT HIM IN PUBLIC

Avoid correcting your husband in public, it does not show you as a virtuous woman and will affect his self-esteem. If you do that in public, you will look like a mad dog without breeding.

7. AVOID CORRECTING IN ANGER.

Stop correcting your husband in anger, shouting, ranting, beating and making trouble. Never push your husband to the point of him to fight back and protect himself from a rascal act of yours. By doing that, you are like adding kerosine on a burning house. Instead, invite him for a walk, hold his hand and talk about the problem. 

8. DON’T COMPARE HIM WITH ANY OTHER MAN! 

That’s where jealousy comes from. In your thought of correcting him, you might have been comparing him with other men.

“Don’t you see what your friend is doing?” Can’t you learn from our neighbors husband?” “Can’t you be like so-and-so husband? Or can’t you be like Adam in the garden of Eden? Girl, your husband is different. When you come to a point of doing these, then remember the time when he asked for your hand in marriage and you chose him over millions of men existing because you believed he is the perfect one for you. So why try to compare him now with the millions of men you didn’t see them worthy of you? 

9 NEVER GET BACK TO OLD ISSUES

There is no reasons why you need to get back to old issues… like “remember what you did before?? I will never ever, ever forget that! Bla bla bla!!!” Once the issues are done and solved, it should be totally erased in your memory. Never try to open a grave that has been covered otherwise the smell from it will cause you more harm than you could imagine. Well mannered woman never do that. Stick to the present issue, discuss like adults and move on.

10 DON’T ATTACK HIS MANHOOD

“And you call yourself a man enough? Real man don’t behave like this, you better change before I change you!.” This is very wrong, don’t do it… Ladies we don’t change men! If they want to change, they will change because of LOVE. Don’t try to be a sculptor of water. For sure you can’t do that.

11. DON’T ATTACK HIS DIGNITY,

GIVE YOUR HUSBAND A BUNCH OF RESPECT!

That’s all that matters. If you don’t have enough respect for your husband then you are not worth the respect of your children and you can’t correct him and he listens. 

12. DO IT IN TIME OF PEACE

Most wives do want to correct in the heat of their anger, at the height of misunderstanding, when temper has already hit the roof. That is not the best time to correct him, it will yield little or no result at all. Men are simple, they have selective hearing. They can only hear in low tone of your voice. 

13. GIVE A HELPING HAND

Work together for good… Change tire together, try your best to help in your most seductive way. That will make their job easy and fast. If he is fixing a broken leg of a table, hand him the things he need. Don’t just stand and watch your husband like you are an egyptian pharaoh mandating a slaves and ready to give a whip when he makes a mistakes. 

Husbands most of the time are doing a great job, appreciate yours and support him to be better husband and father. If you always assist him, when he makes a mistake, you can easily correct him and he listens. Imagine he is fixing something, and you are busy pressing your phone and when he’s done, you tell him it’s not OK or he has done it wrong. How do you think he will feel? But if you’re with him while he’s doing it and you see it going wrong, and you say “honey, what if you do it so-and-so way? I think it will be perfect.” Definitely he might say, I guess you’re right and even if he doesn’t buy your ideas and he fixes it his own way which is wrong, then you can say “maybe had it been you did it the way I suggested, it might have worked” and he will definitely you’re right. Maa shaa Allah, you’ve already corrected him.