Islam places immense importance on good character and exemplary treatment of others, especially towards one’s spouse. The Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ), who was sent as a mercy to mankind, emphasized this principle in many of his sayings. Among them is the profound hadith narrated by Abu Hurairah (رضي الله عنه):
“The most complete of the Believers in their Eemaan are those who have the best manners, and the best of you are those who are best to their women.”
(Collected by Tirmidhi, Ahmad; declared ‘Saheeh’ by Shaykh Al-Albani in Silsilah As-Saheehah, No. 284)
This narration highlights a fundamental aspect of faith: that the completeness of a person’s belief in Allah is reflected in their conduct, particularly towards their wives. This teaching underlines the intrinsic link between faith, character, and interpersonal relationships, making the treatment of one’s spouse a litmus test of true piety and goodness.
The Prophet (ﷺ) affirmed two key qualities in this hadith:
Shaykh Muhammad Bin Salih Al-Uthaymeen (رحمه الله) elaborated on this hadith, emphasizing that a believer’s goodness should first and foremost benefit their wife. He warned against a common mistake: being polite and considerate to strangers while neglecting or mistreating one’s spouse. The Shaykh beautifully described how a wife’s shared experiences with her husband—joy, sorrow, trials, and triumphs—make her deserving of the utmost care, respect, and kindness.
The Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) is the ultimate role model in how to treat one’s spouse. His relationships with his wives were characterized by love, compassion, and respect.
Islam emphasizes that good manners are a sign of true faith. The Qur’an describes the marital relationship as one of tranquility, affection, and mercy:
“And among His signs is that He created for you spouses from among yourselves, that you may find tranquility in them, and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed, in that are signs for a people who reflect.”
(Surah Ar-Rum, 30:21)
The Qur’anic guidance complements the Prophetic teachings, stressing that marriage is not merely a contract but a sacred bond built on mutual respect and understanding.
May Allah grant us the ability to treat our spouses with kindness, patience, and love. May He complete our faith and make us among those who embody the best character. May we follow the beautiful example of the Prophet (ﷺ) in all aspects of our lives, especially in our homes. Ameen.
“The best of you are those who are best to their wives.”
This timeless wisdom reminds us that our behavior towards those closest to us is the truest measure of our character and faith. May Allah make us the best to our families and help us uphold the values of compassion, justice, and love.
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