Debunking the Myth: Who Should Marry Widows and Divorced Women in the Muslim Community?
โ๐ ๐ฒ๐ป ๐ป๐ฒ๐ฒ๐ฑ ๐๐ผ ๐บ๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ฟ๐ ๐๐ถ๐ฑ๐ผ๐๐ฒ๐ฑ ๐ผ๐ฟ ๐ฑ๐ถ๐๐ผ๐ฟ๐ฐ๐ฒ๐ฑ ๐๐ผ๐บ๐ฒ๐ป, ๐ฝ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ณ๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ฎ๐ฏ๐น๐ ๐๐ถ๐๐ต ๐ฐ๐ต๐ถ๐น๐ฑ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ป. ๐ง๐ต๐ฒ๐ ๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ฒ ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐ผ๐ป๐ฒ๐ ๐๐ต๐ผ ๐ป๐ฒ๐ฒ๐ฑ ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐ณ๐ถ๐ป๐ฎ๐ป๐ฐ๐ถ๐ฎ๐น ๐๐๐ฝ๐ฝ๐ผ๐ฟ๐ ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐ฎ ๐ณ๐ฎ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐ฟ ๐ณ๐ถ๐ด๐๐ฟ๐ฒ ๐ณ๐ผ๐ฟ ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐ฐ๐ต๐ถ๐น๐ฑ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ป.โ
Firstly, men are not encouraged (as a preference), let alone be obliged, to marry widowed and divorced women. In fact, according to hadith, the advice from the Prophet (peace be upon him) was that Muslim men should marry young virgin women.ย
So therefore, if unmarried Muslim men follow the Prophetic advice then who precisely are the men that “need to marry” the widows and divorced women within the community? Already married men?
But wait, I thought that married men cannot take on additional wives because they are not financially capable of doing so, especially in the west. Right? Or did the average costs of living all of a sudden decrease?
Married men need a second job, not a second wife. Right?
Married men cannot take on additional wives because their first wife has imprisoned them with a condition in the marriage contract that threatens him with divorce if he dares to engage in polygony. Right?
Married men cannot marry these divorced and widowed women because these women do not want to be a second, third or fourth wife. Right?
So, who precisely are the men that can, and should, and need to marry the divorced and widowed women?
With regards to the children of divorced women needing a father figure – if their fathers are alive then this is who they need as a role model, another male does not replace the biological father. Oh wait, their mother has alienated the children from their father using the same system that she financially benefits from to support her and her children!
Is it not amazing how attitudes drastically change when it concerns the welfare and needs of women…
