Debunking the Myth: Who Should Marry Widows and Divorced Women in the Muslim Community?
❝𝗠𝗲𝗻 𝗻𝗲𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝗺𝗮𝗿𝗿𝘆 𝘄𝗶𝗱𝗼𝘄𝗲𝗱 𝗼𝗿 𝗱𝗶𝘃𝗼𝗿𝗰𝗲𝗱 𝘄𝗼𝗺𝗲𝗻, 𝗽𝗿𝗲𝗳𝗲𝗿𝗮𝗯𝗹𝘆 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗰𝗵𝗶𝗹𝗱𝗿𝗲𝗻. 𝗧𝗵𝗲𝘆 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗼𝗻𝗲𝘀 𝘄𝗵𝗼 𝗻𝗲𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗳𝗶𝗻𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗶𝗮𝗹 𝘀𝘂𝗽𝗽𝗼𝗿𝘁 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗮 𝗳𝗮𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝗳𝗶𝗴𝘂𝗿𝗲 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗰𝗵𝗶𝗹𝗱𝗿𝗲𝗻.❞
Firstly, men are not encouraged (as a preference), let alone be obliged, to marry widowed and divorced women. In fact, according to hadith, the advice from the Prophet (peace be upon him) was that Muslim men should marry young virgin women.
So therefore, if unmarried Muslim men follow the Prophetic advice then who precisely are the men that “need to marry” the widows and divorced women within the community? Already married men?
But wait, I thought that married men cannot take on additional wives because they are not financially capable of doing so, especially in the west. Right? Or did the average costs of living all of a sudden decrease?
Married men need a second job, not a second wife. Right?
Married men cannot take on additional wives because their first wife has imprisoned them with a condition in the marriage contract that threatens him with divorce if he dares to engage in polygony. Right?
Married men cannot marry these divorced and widowed women because these women do not want to be a second, third or fourth wife. Right?
So, who precisely are the men that can, and should, and need to marry the divorced and widowed women?
With regards to the children of divorced women needing a father figure – if their fathers are alive then this is who they need as a role model, another male does not replace the biological father. Oh wait, their mother has alienated the children from their father using the same system that she financially benefits from to support her and her children!
Is it not amazing how attitudes drastically change when it concerns the welfare and needs of women…