The Ideal Muslim Woman: Qualities & Guidance

The Ideal Muslim Woman: Ten Essential Qualities from the Quran and Sunnah

An Ideal Woman

Allah has blessed us with numerous blessings: the blessing of wealth, health, spouses, children, and most importantly, the blessing of faith. These blessings were given to us so that we might show gratitude to Allah. However, whether men or women, we tend to forget Allah after receiving these blessings. If we remember anything, it is the love of this world. We have become immersed in the charms of worldly life—alcohol, adultery, immorality, dishonesty, and debauchery have become rampant. Allah has depicted this scenario:
أَلْهَاكُمُ التَّكَاثُرُ (التكاثر:1)
Translation: “The desire for more and more distracts you.” (Al-Takathur: 1)

O people! Those who boast about worldly wealth and forget your Lord in the midst of luxury and indulgence! These worldly pleasures will be of no use to you in the Hereafter. No one will be able to save you from Allah’s punishment. What will save you is your righteous deeds. Only through righteous deeds can you enter Paradise; otherwise, Hell will be your abode.
وَمَن يَعْمَلْ مِنَ الصَّالِحَاتِ مِن ذَكَرٍ أَوْ أُنثَىٰ وَهُوَ مُؤْمِنٌ فَأُولَٰئِكَ يَدْخُلُونَ الْجَنَّةَ وَلَا يُظْلَمُونَ نَقِيرًا (النساء: 124)
Translation: “And whoever does righteous deeds, whether male or female, while being a believer—these will enter Paradise and will not be wronged [even as much as] the speck on a date seed.” (An-Nisa: 124)

Thus, focus on the Hereafter instead of worrying about worldly matters and engage in righteous deeds. When the following verse was revealed:
وَأَنذِرْ عَشِيرَتَكَ الْأَقْرَبِينَ (الشعراء: 214)
Translation: “And warn your closest relatives.” (Ash-Shu’ara: 214)

The Prophet (ﷺ) gathered the Quraysh and warned them about Hell. He said:
يَا فَاطِمَةُ بِنْتَ مُحَمَّدٍ سَلِينِي مَا شِئْتِ مِنْ مَالِي لَا أُغْنِي عَنْكِ مِنَ اللَّهِ شَيْئًا (رواه البخاري: 2753، ومسلم: 206)
Translation: “O Fatimah, daughter of Muhammad, ask me whatever you wish from my wealth, but I cannot avail you anything before Allah.” (Bukhari: 2753; Muslim: 206)

Another narration states:
يا فاطمةُ ! أنقذِي نفسَكِ منَ النارِ . فإني لا أملكُ لكُم منَ اللهِ شيئًا . (صحيح مسلم: 204)
Translation: “O my beloved daughter Fatimah! Save yourself from the fire, for I have no power to protect you against Allah.” (Muslim: 204)

A woman, being delicate by nature, must tread carefully at every step. As a sister or daughter, even a slight stain on her reputation can disgrace her brother and bring dishonor to her parents, making marriage particularly challenging. When a woman becomes a wife, she is the treasure of her husband’s life and must protect her dignity. If not, she risks becoming doubtful in her husband’s eyes. As a mother, she must be a paragon of love and care, ensuring that her affection does not hinder the Islamic upbringing of her children.

The question arises: what are the qualities that make a woman an ideal sister, wife, or mother? Or, what are the attributes of a woman destined for Paradise? Allah has summarized these qualities in one verse:
إِنَّ الْمُسْلِمِينَ وَالْمُسْلِمَاتِ وَالْمُؤْمِنِينَ وَالْمُؤْمِنَاتِ وَالْقَانِتِينَ وَالْقَانِتَاتِ وَالصَّادِقِينَ وَالصَّادِقَاتِ وَالصَّابِرِينَ وَالصَّابِرَاتِ وَالْخَاشِعِينَ وَالْخَاشِعَاتِ وَالْمُتَصَدِّقِينَ وَالْمُتَصَدِّقَاتِ وَالصَّائِمِينَ وَالصَّائِمَاتِ وَالْحَافِظِينَ فُرُوجَهُمْ وَالْحَافِظَاتِ وَالذَّاكِرِينَ اللَّهَ كَثِيرًا وَالذَّاكِرَاتِ أَعَدَّ اللَّهُ لَهُم مَّغْفِرَةً وَأَجْرًا عَظِيمًا (الأحزاب: 35)
Translation: “Indeed, the Muslim men and Muslim women, the believing men and believing women, the obedient men and obedient women, the truthful men and truthful women, the patient men and patient women, the humble men and humble women, the charitable men and charitable women, the fasting men and fasting women, the men who guard their private parts and the women who do so, and the men who remember Allah often and the women who do so—for them Allah has prepared forgiveness and a great reward.” (Al-Ahzab: 35)

In this verse, Allah mentions ten qualities for both ideal men and ideal women.

(1) The First Quality of an Ideal Woman:

A woman must be a Muslim. Merely having names like Aisha or Khadijah does not make one a Muslim. A Muslim woman is one whose words and actions align with the teachings of Islam. The definition of Islam in the Hadith of Jibreel is as follows:
الإسْلامُ أَنْ تَشْهَدَ أَنْ لا إِلَهَ إِلَّا اللَّهُ وَأَنَّ مُحَمَّداً رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ وَتُقِيمَ الصَّلاةَ وَتُؤْتِيَ الزَّكَاةَ وَتَصُومَ رَمَضَانَ وَتَحُجَّ الْبَيْتَ إِنِ اسْتَطَعْتَ إِلَيْهِ سَبِيلاً
Translation: “Islam is to testify that there is no deity worthy of worship except Allah and that Muhammad is the Messenger of Allah, to establish prayer, to give zakah, to fast during Ramadan, and to perform Hajj if one is able to do so.”

A woman should reflect these five pillars of Islam. If she claims to believe in Allah and His Messenger, she must offer the five daily prayers. If she does not, no matter her name, she cannot be considered a Muslim.
خرد نے کہہ بھی دیا لا الہٰ تو کیا حاصل
دل و نگاہ مسلماں نہیں تو کچھ بھی نہیں

(2) The Second Quality of an Ideal Woman:

A woman must be a believer.
الإيمَانِ: أَنْ تُؤْمِنَ بِاللَّهِ وَمَلائِكَتِهِ وَكُتُبِهِ وَرُسُلِهِ وَالْيَوْمِ الآخِرِ وَتُؤْمِنَ بِالْقَدَرِ خَيْرِهِ وَشَرِّهِ (حديث جبريل)
Translation: “Faith is to believe in Allah, His angels, His books, His messengers, the Last Day, and to believe in divine decree, both its good and its bad.”

The most fundamental aspect of faith is belief in Allah.

1. The first stage is to believe in the existence of Allah.
2. The second is to affirm that He alone is the Creator, Sustainer, and Controller of the universe.
3. The third is to worship Him alone, supplicate to Him, and dedicate all forms of worship to Him exclusively.
4. The fourth is to have faith in His names and attributes.

In these stages of belief in Allah, a woman often falters. For instance, if she is childless, she may turn to others besides Allah for help. In times of illness, she may rely on charms, spiritual healers, or shrines. O mothers and sisters, know that such acts are shirk, and those who commit shirk will not enter Paradise but Hell.

When discussing faith, the martyrdom of Sumayyah (may Allah be pleased with her), the mother of Ammar bin Yasir, comes to mind. She chose to be martyred for her faith rather than waver in her belief in Allah.

For a believing woman, look at the example of Pharaoh’s wife. Despite living in a palace with every luxury, she left it all for faith and prayed to Allah:
وَضَرَبَ اللَّهُ مَثَلًا لِلَّذِينَ آَمَنُوا اِمْرَأَةَ فِرْعَوْنَ إِذْ قَالَتْ رَبِّ ابْنِ لِي عِنْدَكَ بَيْتًا فِي الْجَنَّةِ وَنَجِّنِي مِنْ فِرْعَوْنَ وَعَمَلِهِ وَنَجِّنِي مِنَ الْقَوْمِ الظَّالِمِينَ (التحريم: 11)
Translation: “And Allah presents an example of those who believed: the wife of Pharaoh, when she said, ‘My Lord, build for me near You a house in Paradise and save me from Pharaoh and his deeds and save me from the wrongdoing people.'” (At-Tahrim: 11)

On the contrary, the wives of the Prophets Nuh (Noah) and Lut (Lot), due to their disobedience, were destined for Hell.

(3) The Third Quality of an Ideal Woman:

A woman should be “Qanitat”, meaning worshipful and obedient. She should worship Allah with full sincerity, demonstrating humility and submission in her prayers. Her worship must be solely for Allah without associating any partners, as associating partners invalidates worship. Along with obedience to Allah, she should obey the Messenger of Allah ﷺ, her parents, and her husband.

Many women neither worship Allah properly nor are they obedient. Some women pray and fast, but they fail to obey their husbands.
Obedience to the husband includes considering his likes and dislikes, supporting him in times of happiness and distress, serving him, and fulfilling his rights. However, if we look around our homes, we often see the opposite. If a husband says one thing, the wife retorts with ten things in response.

Let us examine some of the hadith regarding the rights and obedience of the husband:
عن أنس بن مالك رضي الله عنه قال : قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم : لا يَصْلُحُ لبَشَرٍ أن يسجدَ لبَشَرٍ ، ولو صَلَحَ أن يسجدَ بشرٌ لبَشَرٍ ، لَأَمَرْتُ المرأةَ أن تسجدَ لزوجِها من عِظَمِ حَقِّهِ عليها ، والذي نفسي بيدِه ، لو أَنَّ من قَدَمِهِ إلى مَفْرِقِ رأسِه قُرْحَةً تَنْبَجِسُ بالقَيْحِ والصَّدِيدِ ، ثم أَقْبَلَتْ تَلْحَسُه ، ما أَدَّتْ حَقَّه(صحيح الجامع:7725).

Translation:
Hazrat Anas bin Malik رضي الله عنه narrated that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said:
“It is not permissible for a human to prostrate to another human. If it were permissible, I would have commanded a wife to prostrate to her husband due to the magnitude of his rights over her. By the One in whose hand my soul is, even if he were covered from head to toe in wounds oozing blood and pus, and she licked it clean, she would still not fulfill his rights.”

In another hadith:
حَدَّثَنَا جَعْفَرُ بْنُ عَوْنٍ قَالَ : أَخْبَرَنَا رَبِيعَةُ بن عُثْمَانَ , عَنْ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ يَحْيَى بْنِ حَبَّانَ , عَنْ نَهَارٍ الْعَبْدِيِّ ، وَكَانَ مِنْ أَصْحَابِ أَبِي سَعِيدٍ الْخُدْرِيِّ , عَنْ أَبِي سَعِيدٍ أَنَّ رَجُلاً أَتَى بِابْنَةٍ لَهُ إلَى النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم , فَقَالَ : إنَّ ابْنَتِي هَذِهِ أَبَتْ أَنْ تَتَزَوَّجَ قَالَ , فَقَالَ لَهَا : أَطِيعِي أَبَاك قَالَ ، قَالَتْ : لاَ حَتَّى تُخْبِرَنِي مَا حَقُّ الزَّوْجِ عَلَى زَوْجَتِهِ ؟ فَرَدَّدَتْ عَلَيْهِ مَقَالَتَهَا قَالَ , فَقَالَ : حَقُّ الزَّوْجِ عَلَى زَوْجَتِهِ أَنْ لَوْ كَانَ بِهِ قُرْحَةٌ فَلَحَسَتْهَا ، أَوِ ابْتَدَرَ مَنْخِرَاهُ صَدِيدًا ، أَوْ دَمًا ثُمَّ لَحَسَتْهُ مَا أَدَّتْ حَقَّهُ قَالَ , فَقَالَتْ : وَالَّذِي بَعَثَك بِالْحَقِّ لاَ أَتَزَوَّجُ أَبَدًا قَالَ , فَقَالَ : لاَ تُنْكِحُوهُنَّ إلاَّ بِإِذْنِهِنَّ

This narration from Abu Saeed Al-Khudri رضي الله عنه is deemed authentic by some scholars. Imam Ibn Hibban and Imam Hakim have declared it authentic.

In another hadith:
أتيتُ رسولَ اللَّهِ صلَّى اللَّهُ علَيهِ وسلَّمَ في بَعضِ الحاجةِ ، فقالَ : أي هذِهِ ! أَذاتُ بعلٍ ؟ قلتُ : نعَم ، قالَ : كيفَ أنتِ لهُ ؟ قالَت : ما آلوهُ إلَّا ما عجزتُ عنهُ , قالَ : [ فانظُري ] أينَ أنتِ منهُ ؟ فإنَّما هوَ جنَّتُكِ ونارُكِ(آداب الزفاف للالباني:213).

Translation:
Hazrat Husain bin Mohsin’s aunt narrated:
“I approached the Messenger of Allah ﷺ for a need, and he asked, ‘Are you married?’ I replied, ‘Yes.’ He asked, ‘How are you with your husband?’ She responded, ‘I do my best to fulfill his rights, except for what I am unable to.’ He then said, ‘Be mindful of your relationship with him, for he is your Paradise or your Hell.’”

If women are informed of these teachings, they often complain, saying, “What kind of religion is this, placing all responsibilities on us?”

Sisters understand that men also have significant responsibilities. They are required to provide for your needs, such as food, clothing, shelter, and medical care. Regarding their obligations, the Prophet ﷺ said:
فاتقوا اللهَ في النِّساءِ(مسلم :1218).

Translation:
“Fear Allah regarding women.”

In another hadith:
خيرُكُم خيرُكم لِأهْلِهِ ، وَأَنَا خيرُكم لِأَهْلِي(صحيح الجامع:3314).

Translation:
“The best of you are those who are best to their family, and I am the best among you to my family.”

If a husband wrongs his wife, she should still fulfill her responsibilities and remain patient, knowing that patience with an oppressive husband will be rewarded with Paradise.

Hazrat Ka’b bin Ujrah رضي الله عنه reported that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said:
ألا أخبرُكم بنسائِكم في الجنَّةِ ؟ ! كلُّ ودودٍ ولودٍ ، إذا غضبَتْ أو أُسيءَ إليها [ أو غضب زوجُها ] ؛ قالت : هذه يدي في يدك ؛ لا أَكتحلُ بغَمْضٍ حتى تَرْضى( السلسلة الصحيحة:3380).

Translation:
“Shall I inform you of the women of Paradise? Every affectionate, fertile woman, who, when she becomes angry or is mistreated, or when her husband is angry with her, says: ‘Here is my hand in your hand; I will not rest until you are pleased.’”

(4) The Fourth Quality of an Ideal Woman:

A woman should be truthful. Today’s situation has deteriorated to the point where the truth is spoken by mistake; otherwise, lying has become a habitual pastime. Women surpass men in this matter, often lying unnecessarily, even to the extent of creating discord between husband and wife.

The Prophet ﷺ said:
مَنْ یَضْمَنْ لِي مَا بَیْنَ لِحْیَیْہِ وَمَا بَیْنَ رِجْلَیْہِ أَضْمَنْ لَہُ الْجَنَّۃَ [صحیح البخاری: 6474].

Translation:
“Whoever guarantees for me (the protection of) what is between their jaws (tongue) and between their legs (private parts), I guarantee them Paradise.”

In light of this hadith, women should evaluate whether their tongue and chastity are safeguarded. Sometimes, minor matters lead to hours of backbiting and abusive speech. If the husband is briefly out of sight, impure thoughts begin to arise.

O Muslim women, know that truthfulness leads to Paradise, while lying leads to Hellfire. The Prophet ﷺ said:
عَلَيْكُمْ بِالصِّدْقِ فَإِنَّ الصِّدْقَ يَهْدِي إِلَى الْبِرِّ وَإِنَّ الْبِرَّ يَهْدِي إِلَى الْجَنَّةِ وَمَا يَزَالُ الرَّجُلُ يَصْدُقُ وَيَتَحَرَّى الصِّدْقَ حَتَّى يُكْتَبَ عِنْدَ اللَّهِ صِدِّيقًا وَإِيَّاكُمْ وَالْكَذِبَ فَإِنَّ الْكَذِبَ يَهْدِي إِلَى الْفُجُورِ وَإِنَّ الْفُجُورَ يَهْدِي إِلَى النَّارِ وَمَا يَزَالُ الْعَبْدُ يَكْذِبُ وَيَتَحَرَّى الْكَذِبَ حَتَّى يُكْتَبَ عِنْدَ اللَّهِ كَذَّابًا(صحيح مسلم: 2607).

Translation:
“Adhere to truthfulness, for truthfulness leads to righteousness, and righteousness leads to Paradise. A man continues to speak the truth and strives to be truthful until he is recorded with Allah as a truthful person. And beware of lying, for lying leads to sinfulness, and sinfulness leads to Hellfire. A person continues to lie and strives to lie until he is recorded with Allah as a liar.”

(5) The Fifth Quality of an Ideal Woman:

A Woman Should Be Patient
This world is a place of trials. Here, one encounters various difficulties, hardships, and tests. Allah tests both men and women in different ways—sometimes by depriving them of children, sometimes through poverty and helplessness, or by taking away health and strength, and at times by subjecting them to oppressive husbands. Women often struggle to endure these trials and quickly succumb to impatience, complaints, and grievances, distancing themselves from Allah and losing the sweetness and joy of faith. Believe me, there is goodness in patience, and through it, you can become an ideal woman. Let me share with you an incident from Islamic history about a remarkable woman:

عَنِ عَطَاءِ بْنِ أَبِي رَبَاحٍ قَالَ: قَالَ لِي ابْنُ عَبَّاسٍ: أَلَا أُرِيكَ امْرَأَةً مِنْ أَهْلِ الْجَنَّةِ؟ قُلْتُ: بَلَى، قَالَ: هَذِهِ الْمَرْأَةُ السَّوْدَاءُ، أَتَتِ النَّبِيَّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ فَقَالَتْ: إِنِّي أُصْرَعُ، وَإِنِّي أَتَكَشَّفُ، فَادْعُ اللَّهَ لِي، قَالَ: (إِنْ شِئْتِ صَبَرْتِ وَلَكِ الْجَنَّةُ، وَإِنْ شِئْتِ دَعَوْتُ اللَّهَ أَنْ يُعَافِيَكِ). فَقَالَتْ: أَصْبِرُ، فَقَالَتْ: إِنِّي أَتَكَشَّفُ، فَادْعُ اللَّهَ أَنْ لَا أَتَكَشَّفَ، فَدَعَا لَهَا
(صحيح البخاري: 5652، وصحيح مسلم: 2576)

Translation:
“Shall I not show you a woman of Paradise?” I replied, “Yes.” He said, “This black woman came to the Prophet (peace be upon him) and said, ‘I suffer from epilepsy, and during fits, I become uncovered. Please pray to Allah for me.’ The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, ‘If you wish, be patient, and you will attain Paradise, or if you wish, I will pray to Allah to heal you.’ She said, ‘I will be patient.’ She added, ‘But pray to Allah that I do not become uncovered.’ So he prayed for her.”

Now, let me narrate an even more heart-wrenching incident:

عَنِ ابْنِ عَبَّاسٍ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُمَا قَالَ: قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ: (لَمَّا كَانَتْ اللَّيْلَةُ الَّتِي أُسْرِيَ بِي فِيهَا، أَتَتْ عَلَيَّ رَائِحَةٌ طَيِّبَةٌ، فَقُلْتُ: يَا جِبْرِيلُ، مَا هَذِهِ الرَّائِحَةُ الطَّيِّبَةُ؟ فَقَالَ: هَذِهِ رَائِحَةُ مَاشِطَةِ ابْنَةِ فِرْعَوْنَ وَأَوْلَادِهَا، قَالَ: قُلْتُ: وَمَا شَأْنُهَا؟ قَالَ: بَيْنَا هِيَ تُمَشِّطُ ابْنَةَ فِرْعَوْنَ ذَاتَ يَوْمٍ، إِذْ سَقَطَتْ الْمِدْرَى مِنْ يَدَيْهَا، فَقَالَتْ: بِسْمِ اللَّهِ، فَقَالَتْ لَهَا ابْنَةُ فِرْعَوْنَ: أَبِي؟ قَالَتْ: لَا، وَلَكِنْ رَبِّي وَرَبُّ أَبِيكِ اللَّهُ، قَالَتْ: أُخْبِرُهُ بِذَلِكَ! قَالَتْ: نَعَمْ، فَأَخْبَرَتْهُ، فَدَعَاهَا فَقَالَ: يَا فُلانَةُ؛ وَإِنَّ لَكِ رَبًّا غَيْرِي؟ قَالَتْ: نَعَمْ؛ رَبِّي وَرَبُّكَ اللَّهُ، فَأَمَرَ بِبَقَرَةٍ مِنْ نُحَاسٍ فَأُحْمِيَتْ، ثُمَّ أَمَرَ بِهَا أَنْ تُلْقَى هِيَ وَأَوْلَادُهَا فِيهَا، قَالَتْ لَهُ: إِنَّ لِي إِلَيْكَ حَاجَةً، قَالَ: وَمَا حَاجَتُكِ؟ قَالَتْ: أُحِبُّ أَنْ تَجْمَعَ عِظَامِي وَعِظَامَ وَلَدِي فِي ثَوْبٍ وَاحِدٍ وَتَدْفِنَنَا، قَالَ: ذَلِكَ لَكِ عَلَيْنَا مِنْ الْحَقِّ، قَالَ: فَأَمَرَ بِأَوْلَادِهَا فَأُلْقُوا بَيْنَ يَدَيْهَا وَاحِدًا وَاحِدًا إِلَى أَنْ انْتَهَى ذَلِكَ إِلَى صَبِيٍّ لَهَا مُرْضَعٍ، وَكَأَنَّهَا تَقَاعَسَتْ مِنْ أَجْلِهِ، قَالَ: يَا أُمَّهْ؛ اقْتَحِمِي فَإِنَّ عَذَابَ الدُّنْيَا أَهْوَنُ مِنْ عَذَابِ الْآخِرَةِ، فَاقْتَحَمَتْ)
ابْنُ عَبَّاسٍ رضي الله عنهما: ‏تَكَلَّمَ أَرْبَعَةُ صِغَارٍ: ‏‏عِيسَى ابْنُ مَرْيَمَ ‏‏عَلَيْهِ السَّلام، وَصَاحِبُ ‏جُرَيْجٍ،‏ ‏وَشَاهِدُ ‏‏يُوسُفَ، ‏وَابْنُ ‏مَاشِطَةِ ابْنَةِ فِرْعَوْنَ

Translation:
Abdullah ibn Abbas (may Allah be pleased with him) reported that the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said:
“During the night I was taken on the Night Journey, I came across a beautiful fragrance. I asked, ‘O Jibreel, what is this pleasant scent?’ He replied, ‘This is the scent of the hairdresser of Pharaoh’s daughter and her children.’ I asked, ‘What is their story?’ Jibreel said, ‘While combing Pharaoh’s daughter’s hair one day, the comb fell from her hand, and she uttered, “In the name of Allah.” Pharaoh’s daughter asked, “Do you mean my father?” She replied, “No, my Lord and the Lord of your father is Allah.” Pharaoh’s daughter said, “Shall I inform my father of this?” The hairdresser said, “Yes.”

When Pharaoh learned of it, he summoned her and said, “Do you have a Lord other than me?” She replied, “Yes, my Lord and your Lord is Allah.” Pharaoh then ordered a large copper pot to be heated until it was scorching, and commanded that she and her children be thrown into it. She requested one favor: “Gather my bones and the bones of my children in one cloth and bury us together.” He agreed.

One by one, her children were thrown into the pot before her eyes until it was the turn of her nursing infant. She hesitated due to her love for the child, but Allah granted the infant the ability to speak, and he said, ‘O Mother, throw yourself in, for the torment of this world is lighter than the torment of the Hereafter.’ So she threw herself in.”

Classification of the Hadith:

• Imam Al-Dhahabi regarded its chain as hasan (good) (Al-Uluw: 80).
• Ibn Kathir stated, “Its chain is acceptable” (Tafsir, 3/15).
• Shaykh Ahmad Shakir and Al-Arna’ut graded its chain as sahih (authentic) in their commentaries.

(6) The Sixth quality  of an Ideal Woman:

A woman should be one who fears Allah. An ideal woman will have such a fear of Allah in her heart that before committing any wrong, slander, or immoral act, or disobeying Allah, His Messenger, or her husband, she will be deterred by the fear of Allah. Such a woman will be honored with paradise by Allah.
There is a story from Sahih Bukhari:
Hazrat Hudhaifa narrated that he heard the Prophet ﷺ saying:
إنَّ رجلًا حضره الموتُ، فلما يئس من الحياةِ أوصى أهلَه : إذا أنا متُّ فاجمعوا لي حطبًا كثيرًا، وأوقِدوا فيه نارًا، حتى إذا أكلتْ لحمي وخلصتْ إلى عظمي فامتحشتُ، فخذوها فاطحنُوها، ثم انظروا يومًا راحًا فاذروهُ في اليمِّ، ففعلوا، فجمعه اللهُ فقال له : لم فعلتَ ذلك ؟ قال : من خشيتِك، فغفر اللهُ لهُ (Sahih Bukhari: 3450)
Translation: A man was near death, and when he despaired of life, he advised his family: “When I die, gather a lot of wood and kindle a fire. When the fire has burned my flesh and reached my bones, crush them, and on a windy day, scatter my ashes in the sea.” His family did as he instructed, but Allah gathered his ashes and asked him: “Why did you do this?” He replied, “Out of fear of You, O Allah!” Allah forgave him because of this fear. (Sahih Bukhari: 3450)

(7) The Seventh quality  of an Ideal Woman:

A woman should observe fasting: Fasting during the month of Ramadan is obligatory once a year, but sometimes women skip their fasts due to health issues or other excuses. However, if a fast is missed due to illness or menstruation, it should be made up as soon as possible after Ramadan. In addition to the obligatory fasts, a woman should fast on the white days (Ayam al-Beed), the Day of Ashura, Mondays and Thursdays, and other voluntary fasts. For voluntary fasts, permission from her husband is required if he is present. If the husband is not present, the fear of Allah, concern for the Hereafter, and preparation for it should motivate the woman.

(8) The Eighth quality of an Ideal Woman:

A woman should be charitable: If Allah has blessed you with wealth, do not hesitate to spend it in His cause. Often, it is seen that a woman does not give charity from her own wealth, and she may even prevent her husband from spending. In such a situation, both the husband and wife will be sinful if they do not fulfill the rights of their wealth.
Narrated Abu Sa’id al-Khudri: The Messenger of Allah ﷺ went out for Eid al-Adha or Eid al-Fitr, and passed by the women. He said:
(يَا مَعْشَرَ النِّسَاءِ تَصَدَّقْنَ فَإِنِّي أُرِيتُكُنَّ أَكْثَرَ أَهْلِ النَّارِ)
فَقُلْنَ: وَبِمَ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ؟ قَالَ: تُكْثِرْنَ اللَّعْنَ وَتَكْفُرْنَ الْعَشِيرِ مَا رَأَيْتُ مِنْ نَاقِصَاتِ عَقْلٍ وَدِينٍ أَذْهَبَ لِلُّبِّ الرَّجُلِ الْحَازِمِ مِنْ إِحْدَاكُنَّ
قُلْنَ: وَمَا نُقْصَانُ دِينِنَا وَعَقْلِنَا يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ؟ قَالَ: أَلَيْسَ شَهَادَةُ الْمَرْأَةِ مِثْلَ نِصْفِ شَهَادَةِ الرَّجُلِ؟ قُلْنَ: بَلَى، قَالَ: فَذَلِكِ مِنْ نُقْصَانِ عَقْلِهَا أَلَيْسَ إِذَا حَاضَتْ لَمْ تُصَلِّ وَلَمْ تَصُمْ؟ قُلْنَ: بَلَى، قَالَ: فَذَلِكِ مِنْ نُقْصَانِ دِينِهَا (Sahih Bukhari: 304)
Translation: Abu Sa’id al-Khudri (RA) narrated that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ went to the Eid gathering for Eid al-Adha or Eid al-Fitr and passed by the women. He said: “O women, give in charity, for I have seen that you are the majority of the people of Hell.” They asked, “Why, O Messenger of Allah?” He replied, “You curse often and are ungrateful to your husbands. I have not seen anyone more lacking in intellect and religion than you. A wise man can be swayed by one of you.” They asked, “What is the deficiency in our intellect and religion, O Messenger of Allah?” He said, “Isn’t the testimony of a woman half that of a man?” They replied, “Yes.” He said, “That is part of the deficiency in her intellect. Is it not true that when a woman menstruates, she does not pray or fast?” They replied, “Yes.” He said, “That is part of the deficiency in her religion.” (Sahih Bukhari: 304)

An example of this is the first wife of the Prophet ﷺ and a wealthy woman, Hazrat Khadijah (RA). When she married the Prophet ﷺ, she gave all her wealth to him, laying it at his feet.

(9) The Ninth quality of an Ideal Woman:

A woman should safeguard her chastity: Whether her husband is at home or away for work, a woman must protect her modesty and avoid all things that could lead to zina (adultery) or immoral acts. However, it often happens that when a husband goes abroad, the wife establishes illicit relationships with her brother-in-law or some other man. In such matters, we must fear Allah. If you want to become an ideal woman in this world and a woman of paradise in the Hereafter, do a few things:
عن عبد الرحمن بن عوف قال: قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه و سلم : إِذَا ‏صَلَّتِ الْمَرْأَةُ خَمْسَهَا، وَصَامَتْ شَهْرَهَا، وَحَفِظَتْ فَرْجَهَا، وَأَطَاعَتْ زَوْجَهَا، قِيلَ لَهَا: ادْخُلِي الْجَنَّةَ مِنْ أَيِّ أَبْوَابِ الْجَنَّةِ شِئْتِ
(مسند احمد: 1ص191، الطبرانی الأوسط :8800 ،9/372)
Translation: Abdullah ibn Umar (RA) narrates that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: “When a woman performs her five daily prayers, fasts during the month of Ramadan, guards her chastity, and obeys her husband, it will be said to her: ‘Enter Paradise through whichever gate you wish.'”
O Muslim women! Understand that traveling without a mahram, being secluded with a non-mahram man, sweet-talking him, speaking softly, or wearing revealing clothes all put a woman at risk of falling into zina. Therefore, we must avoid all actions that could lead to suspicion of immorality or wrongdoings.

(10) The Tenth quality of an Ideal Woman:

A woman should remember Allah: A woman of Islam should use her tongue to mention Allah, rather than engage in backbiting, gossip, lies, filthy speech, speaking ill of others, or slandering them. Unfortunately, the opposite is often true in our society. If a woman hears something, she cannot keep it to herself and will share it with countless other women. Instead of searching for faults in others and spreading them, we should focus on our own faults and correct them. If we do this, there will be less conflict and disputes in society.
The Qur’an mentions the ten traits of an ideal woman. Through these ten traits, a woman can become the best sister, daughter, wife, daughter-in-law, and overall the best woman.
However, when I reflect on the situation of many of our Muslim mothers and sisters, my forehead lowers in shame, and I am forced to say with regret: how can a woman who appears naked even while wearing clothes, who attracts strange men with tight, revealing clothes, or who adorns herself for non-mahrams, be considered a woman of Paradise? How can she be a good woman who goes out without her husband’s permission and hides to go to markets and social gatherings? How can she be a woman of paradise who only speaks of backbiting and gossip?
Please, take heed now, be conscious, and resolve from today that we will do only what pleases Allah. Our life and death will be for Allah alone. Allah, the Almighty, says:
قُلْ إِنَّ صَلاتِي وَنُسُكِي وَمَحْيَايَ وَمَمَاتِي لِلَّهِ رَبِّ الْعَالَمِينَ
(الأنعام: 162)
Translation: (Say, “Indeed, my prayer, my rites of sacrifice, my living and my dying are for Allah, Lord of the worlds.”)
O Allah! Make women good wives and righteous women. Protect them from evil, gossip, backbiting, and lies. Make them obedient and submissive to their husbands, and make the path to Paradise easy for them. Make us men mindful of the rights of women, and grant that we all rise from this world in a state of faith.

تم شوق سے کالج میں پڑھو, پارک میں کھیلو
جائز ہے غباروں میں اڑو, چرخ پہ جھولو
ایک سخن بنده عاجز کی رہے یاد بس
اللہ کو اور اپنی حقیقت کو نہ بھولو

Translation:
You may study with passion in college, play in the park,
It is fine to fly in balloons, swing on the carousel,
But remember, the only advice from a humble servant is this:
Never forget Allah and your true essence.

وآخر دعوانا أن الحمد لله رب العالمين. وصلى اللَّه وسلم على نبينا محمد وعلى آله وصحبه والتابعين لهم بإحسان إلى يوم الدين
Translation:
And our final prayer is that all praise is due to Allah, the Lord of the worlds. May Allah’s peace and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, his companions, and all those who follow them with righteousness until the Day of Judgment.