A Reminder for Muslim Men: The True Meaning of ‘I Have the Right to Marry Another Wife
Assalamu alaikum! We do not intend this post to hurt anyone’s feelings. It’s just a reminder for myself first and then to you reading and I hope you read it in good faith!
“I have the right to marry another wife” is a generally slang common among some men towards their first wives.
Men know women naturally get jealous when it concerns sharing their husbands except a few and it’s something that women need to understand that Allah made polygamy lawful because HE knows it’s the best for us rather than zina!
Some men use this slang [I call it a slang because it’s becoming so common] to oppress their wives in many ways especially emotionally
Many men married today are into zina with other women under the slang “I want to marry her as a second wife”. It’s not a sin to marry a second wife but it’s a sin hiding under a veil of I want to marry her as a second wife to be committing zina.
Remember that the punishment for a married man or woman who commits zina in this world is stoning to death under the shariah law. Shariah law is the law of Allah and His messenger that’s the Qur’an and Sunnah and not Saudi Arabia as wrongly interpreted by many Muslims today.
“I have the right to marry another wife” and yes you have that right but Allah has not given you that right UNLESS you’re capable of being JUST among them; by oppressing your first wife, not taking care of her, beating her, insulting her, etc makes you lack that right of having another wife and because you lack that right naturally, you’d always find yourself in troubles or committing zina!
If you know you’re not financially capable marrying a second wife, stop deceiving other ladies that you want to marry them. Many of it always end in zina and Subhan Allah even causing the lady to abort for you 
It’s a sad reality today in our communities that a young man who just got married starts searching for another wife after a few months and Wallahi 90% of their hidden reason is not to actually marry but they keep hiding under the slang “I have the right to marry another wife”
Some women don’t trust their husbands any longer, they’re oppressed everyday by their husbands, they’re going through hell in pains and some of them find no reason living with their husbands except because of their children. You’ll see a man who is not buying new clothes for his wife, not knowing her she takes care of herself, not buying her pads, not buying her shoes etc yet keep complaining his wife is dirty and old out of fashion. My brother are you okay? Where do you expect her to get money from to fix herself when Allah placed that responsibility upon you but you refused it?
“I want to marry her” is the the new slang among Muslim men both married and unmarried as a way of having concubines and girlfriends respectively and this is completely Haram. If you want to marry her, why not do the right thing? Why wasting her time? Why the late night hidden calls? Why the romantic chatting? It’s all Haram.
It is a sad reality that some women are the cause of why their husbands start having concubines in the name of “I want to marry her”. But brothers, that’s not a reason before Allah for you committing such Haram; it could be your test from Allah which you need to deal with without involving in Haram.
Sadly, I’ve come across a married man who during Ramadan, will collect cooked food from his girlfriend or concubine and bring it home to his wife then lie to her that it’s given by his boss’s wife as Ramadan present for him fasting.
If you know it’s your right to marry another wife, know that Allah has ONLY given you that right when you’re able to be just and you are taking good care of your wife at home otherwise it’s rather Haram for you to marry another wife.
Some foolish men even go as far as divorcing their wives to marry another wife. Sisters listen; a man who divorces his wife BECAUSE OF YOU will surely divorce you because of another woman. But if a man has divorced his wife before knowing or meeting you, then there’s no problem!
The way you treat your wife is exactly how your daughters tomorrow will be treated unless Allah’s Mercy prevail!
We intends by this to advise our brothers to stop being into Haram relationship under the pretext of “I want to marry her”. If you really want to marry her, be swift about it and do things accordingly!
Live a happy marriage and have a good relationship with Allah